Mistakes Enrich the Soul

Many people are very frightened and apprehensive to make a mistake. They become so afraid that they isolate from life, so it is not possible to make a mistake. The more afraid we are to make a mistake, the less willing we are to risk, the more we are restricted and stuck. Therefore our Soul becomes deprived of the nutriments needed to thrive.

Therefore don't let past life mistakes determine your future. We all make mistakes. Without mistakes we cannot learn and transform. No one is perfect.  So we cannot allow them to define who we are.

First Social Video Show on Facebook

The question for my 1^st social video show aired over Facebook was “What is your Personal Philosophy?”  You can watch http://bit.ly/gN1d1M and learn more about my theory for personal growth and healing. I have gotten very good response from the viewers of the show. I plan on doing more episodes and I asked people interested in seeing more to suggest topics they would like me to talk about. Participate and send me suggestions at tollefsonenterprises@gmail.com for what you want to hear on "Transforming with Dr. Bill"

Core Beliefs have the Power to Heal or Be Destructive

“Your core beliefs have the power to be more healing or destructive than anything else in the world” - Dr. Bill 2010

The human brain forms beliefs about everything it experiences throughout one’s life. Belief by definition is the mental acceptance of an action, idea, statement or thought as being true even though it may not be. A belief is a subjective attitude that is formed in relationship to an experience. The content of a belief is accepted by the brain based on the degree of emotional reaction the. The greater the emotional response to the belief the more it becomes rooted and believed to be true.

It is individual beliefs that make up a human’s belief system. The belief system can motivate the human toward success or be a barrier to growth and cause an act of self-sabotage. Past beliefs also determine a human’s behavior, emotions, life responses and thoughts.  

There is hope…..

Negative Thoughts Bother Me

Why do negative thoughts enter my mind? Well there are two routes that need to be considered. Negative thoughts are generally triggered unconsciously in course of our daily lives.  Route #1 is when negative thoughts surface as the result of a current event stimulating a memory of a previous event to release a root belief from that event For example: a rooted belief could be “I am not good enough”. The other route is when the current event stimulates the audio portion of the memory and releases the direct statement recorded in the brain, like “You will never be any good at anything”. Understand that both routes of delivery are disempowering.  You have no idea where they came from. Both influence you by running in the background but cause you to think negative ways. The positive thing is it is possible to make a shift in both, and neutralize the influence on you, so it no longer affects you. Transformation can occur quickly.

Exciting News

I would like to share some exciting news. Last September I enrolled in a training course to increase my coaching skills with Dr. Patrick Wanis, Ph.D., Celebrity Life Coach. Dr. Wanis has been on Fox News, CNN, Dr. Phil Show and Oprah as well as many radio shows. He has written books and offers DVDs on his techniques. The course was on Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique or SRTT. He only accepted 17 students in the country for the course.

The training course was 7 weeks long with a field practicum reviewed and supervised personally by him. I benefited and gained a lot of knowledge from Dr. Wanis’s teaching and mentoring.  I learned in depth how to work with the subconscious or emotional mind. I felt the experience was well worth the hard work, assignments, time and study.

I am proud to announce that today I received my certification. Out of the 17 students who enrolled, I was 1 of 5 who completed the certification process. Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique is for individuals who would like to learn why they have been stuck in their life and not having the life they are seeking.

I am now one of 5 certified by Dr. Wanis in the country to conduct SRTT. SRTT is a very powerful healing and transformational tool that I can add to my coaching practice to mentor others seeking change in their lives.

You Don’t Need to Disappear to be Safe

In my many years of helping others I have heard the statement “I just want to disappear” over and over from depressed people when they feel that their life is out of control. Many think that “disappearing” is a way to stay safe. Just disappearing is not the answer. Many who experience crisis in their life or failed relationships want to hide. He or she reverts to cutting ties with family, friends or support system, sinking into addiction, isolating or withdrawing. Distorted thinking that breeds out of being alone, such as “if I am alone and do not interact with others then I will not be hurt” are not the answer and in fact end up making them more unsafe.

The more we are alone, the more doubt enters the mind. This leads to self judgment and thoughts of weakness or a feeling of being “less than”. If others perceive that him or her is weak then there is a good chance they will be hurt again.

What is the answer? To be honest it is the opposite behavior that keeps him or her safe. By being social and increasing our social contacts, being more with family and friends, the support system will begin to generate different thoughts patterns.  Then the perception that he or she gives off will be one of strength. Really it is what we give off to others that keep us safe.

Interesting Concept on Body and Mind

"The body follows the mind...be it good...be it bad or be it disowned"

How your body reacts depends on how your mind is fed. If your mind is fed negative information or focuses on bad events or emotions then the body follows suit and it becomes sick. On the other hand if the mind is fed good material and focuses on growth and moving forward then the body reacts and performs at peak levels. How your life goes depends solely on what it is fed. Be aware of what you are allowing your mind to focus on. If you do not like it then make a shift in your thoughts. The more you work on shifting your thoughts the more successful you will be in life.

Understanding Relationships

I was a guess on a national radio show yesterday. In preparing for the show and with organizing my thoughts I came up with a quote to start the show. I would like to share to help anyone think deeply about their relationships with self and others. The quote is as follows: “How we conduct our relationships with others is a direct reflection of how we conduct our relationship with self”. What I was attempting to say is that if you cannot have successful relationship with yourself it is hard to deserve to have a successful and fulfilling relationship with others. The relationship may not totally mirror each other, but if you think that you are “not good enough” to have a relationship with yourself then how can you accept a relationship with others. Good relationship starts from within.

What is a Good Coach?

A good coach offers extensive experience, knowledge and the advantage of a third eye. A good coach will assist you in identifying the weaknesses that is causing fear that decreases your performance. A good coach helps you to discover the root beliefs that are holding you back from what you want in life. Once the discovery phase is completed then a good coach should assist you in shifting disempowering beliefs, teach you new individualized skills and develop an effective Action Plan. So if you want to perform better in your life, seek out a Life Coach to untangle the barriers that are restricting you from success.