Making a Positive Change

"Gratitude is the gateway to moving forward to positive change." Dr Bill

 Positive change in your life is yours when you believe that you deserve and you are worthy of it, When you know that it is there for you. It will be present for you when you are truly authentic with yourself and your life; when your core beliefs match with your external reactions to life experiences. 

Everything that you accomplish is for one reason only. You believe that you will feel more positive about having it. But, the truth is, you must feel positive that you deserve and are worthy of what you desire before you can achieve what you want!  So, believe in yourself first and set positive steps, then put them into action and live in the moment. 

Do these steps, and your life will change for the positive. 

When said another way, when you adjust your core beliefs and putting them into action consistently you will produce positive results in yourself and your life. If you simply look around with positive eyes in the moment you will recognize that you already have much of what you desire. 

Remember, positive core beliefs are an internal vision of your future successes and what you will accomplish. When you tune into our core beliefs then we will spiral upward receiving more blessings that are positive.

Core Beliefs: The Hidden Barrier to Success

I have worked with, studied and helped others with discovering their barriers to the success they would like to achieve. I would like to impart an example of how the formation and process of core beliefs happens.


My expertise has been on memory and how it affects how one thinks, acts and feels. I have discovered that during the time the brain is recording a life event a core belief forms that develops a belief about the person simultaneously. So with every event that is record there is a corresponding core belief forms and over time the core belief roots its self to the memory and sits in the shadow of the memory. Now flash to the present, when you are experiencing a life event the association triggers a past rooted core belief and it is the rooted core belief that determines how the person will react, think or feel unknown to the person. 


For example to help you understand: I am in elementary school and I am waiting for my grade for a test I studied hard for and I thought I did well on. My teacher comes to my desk, drops my test on the desk and I see that I got a D on the test (that is the memory). My teacher looks at me and says “I do not think that you can pass my course because you are not smart enough, so the core belief that forms is “I am not good enough (the #1 core belief for majority of people) or I am not smart enough or I cannot perform as well as others”. Flash to the present and I am at my job, I produce a report and a co-worker looks at me and says, “why did you not go to college, you are so smart” (the trigger). The memory of elementary school does not surface, but unknown to me the rooted core belief surfaces in my mind and out of my mouth I say “I am not smart enough”. To make a long story short rooted core beliefs from the past rule how a person functions in the present. The coaching I do, I guide individuals to examine their rooted core belief s, examine how the belief can be a barrier to their success and then assist them to shift their rooted beliefs to positive and open them to reach their maximum potential in their life today. Shifting core beliefs is possible, powerful and can be a reality. 

Addiction: What Does It Take

Wanting to beat an addiction takes more than just a wish, whether it is a substance, behavior emotion or thought. Essential to being successful, one has to develop an active action plan, sever of old habits and complete a shift in mindset. Also commitment and practice to a personal daily holistic recovery program, whatever form it takes, is required in order to beat an addiction. Just attending a recovery program and not working it is not enough. Dedication and consistent practice of a holistic recovery program is the key success. No athletic ever won a gold medal without practicing their sport every day, whether they felt like it or not. Part-time practice accomplishes nothing. One does not have to be perfect at the program to be successful, one just have to do it. Daily practice will increase one’s skill level and help create a discipline. In conclusion, cessation of an addiction is achieved by changing habitual addiction patterns, full allegiance to a holistic recovery program and daily follow through. 

Results on Rooted Core Belief Survey

I wanted to share the results of the survey I conducted on Facebook. The question was “When doubt surfaces in you due to problems or stress in your life, what you think first?” I wanted to know the first thought that surfaced when a person was faced with stressful or overwhelming life events. I wanted to compare it to other surveys and what I was noticing in people I have been coaching. I though this knowledge was very important to increase understanding of why some people experience barriers when attempting to be successful in their life.

The people who participated had three choices: 1. “I am not good enough”; 2. “I do not deserve to___” or “I do not measure up”. The results were very interesting. The number one rooted core belief reported by the individuals who participated was “I am not good enough”. This rooted core belief was found to be the #1 in many other surveys and the number one reported by people I coach. This rooted core belief reflected the person’s self-perceive weaknesses or the skills they think they are lacking. The second most common was “I do not measure up to ____”. This one reflects that under stress people tend to compare themselves with others. The last reported was “I do not deserve to ____”. This rooted core belief tends to reflect the issue of permission or the right to heal old wounds, be rewarded or succeed. 

The good news is that all three can be shifted and no longer be a barrier to personal growth or success.

I have been picked up by iExist Magazine

I just learned today that I have been picked up as a feature writer for a brand new magazine in development. The magazine will be called "iExist Magazine" and its literary focus will be on "Transformation" in all areas of life. I am thrilled to be involved in the beginning of the magazine.
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Rapid Reduction Technique® Updated to 2.0 – A New Life Skill

Everyone is influenced by their past life experiences. You accumulate a core belief with each life event you experience. These core beliefs become rooted in your subconscious and sometimes block what you want to accomplish. Old rooted beliefs surface at the most unexpected times and influence how you think and behave without your knowledge. Do not be a slave to unconscious beliefs any longer.

Well now there is a way to stop the hold old rooted beliefs have on you - Rapid Reduction Technique® 2.0 (RRT® 2.0).  Rapid Reduction Technique® 2.0 is an enhancement to the original RRT® that has been so successful for so many survivors for a decade. RRT® 2.0 works for anyone who is just bother, consciously or subconsciously, by an embedded belief that influences how well you function. An example of a rooted belief is “I am not good enough” or “I do not deserve”. Embedded beliefs like these can be a barrier to you being a success, having a healthy relationship or getting a college degree.

RRT® 2.0 helps you to wipe out a self restricting rooted belief while assisting you to shift to a new, empowering belief. RRT® 2.0 takes longer than the original RRT® but the advantages of RRT® 2.0 are so much more. Not only does RRT® 2.0 decrease the intensity of and eliminate the rooted belief and disconnect the trigger, but this updated method also helps you uncover the root cause, shift you to a new mindset, dissolve the resistance, and change the core value, as well as disable the associated disempowering emotions. So do not wait, free yourself of the barriers that impede you from achieving your future intentions and perform better in your personal life as well as your professional life. Transforming your life is possible. 

Exciting News

I would like to share some exciting news. Last September I enrolled in a training course to increase my coaching skills with Dr. Patrick Wanis, Ph.D., Celebrity Life Coach. Dr. Wanis has been on Fox News, CNN, Dr. Phil Show and Oprah as well as many radio shows. He has written books and offers DVDs on his techniques. The course was on Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique or SRTT. He only accepted 17 students in the country for the course.

The training course was 7 weeks long with a field practicum reviewed and supervised personally by him. I benefited and gained a lot of knowledge from Dr. Wanis’s teaching and mentoring.  I learned in depth how to work with the subconscious or emotional mind. I felt the experience was well worth the hard work, assignments, time and study.

I am proud to announce that today I received my certification. Out of the 17 students who enrolled, I was 1 of 5 who completed the certification process. Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique is for individuals who would like to learn why they have been stuck in their life and not having the life they are seeking.

I am now one of 5 certified by Dr. Wanis in the country to conduct SRTT. SRTT is a very powerful healing and transformational tool that I can add to my coaching practice to mentor others seeking change in their lives.

You Don’t Need to Disappear to be Safe

In my many years of helping others I have heard the statement “I just want to disappear” over and over from depressed people when they feel that their life is out of control. Many think that “disappearing” is a way to stay safe. Just disappearing is not the answer. Many who experience crisis in their life or failed relationships want to hide. He or she reverts to cutting ties with family, friends or support system, sinking into addiction, isolating or withdrawing. Distorted thinking that breeds out of being alone, such as “if I am alone and do not interact with others then I will not be hurt” are not the answer and in fact end up making them more unsafe.

The more we are alone, the more doubt enters the mind. This leads to self judgment and thoughts of weakness or a feeling of being “less than”. If others perceive that him or her is weak then there is a good chance they will be hurt again.

What is the answer? To be honest it is the opposite behavior that keeps him or her safe. By being social and increasing our social contacts, being more with family and friends, the support system will begin to generate different thoughts patterns.  Then the perception that he or she gives off will be one of strength. Really it is what we give off to others that keep us safe.

#1 in Live365 Relationships Talk Radio Stations

Want to share with all some good news I just got today. I had done a few interviews on the Michele Hughes Show on the National Internet Live365 Talk Radio Station. One of the shows just became #1 in their ratings. Here is the link if you are interested - http://www.live365.com/athena/index.live Copy and paste it into your browser. I am very proud that the show has touched so many people. Evidently my new theories on Core Beliefs have impacted a lot of listeners. Thanks to all who follow me through the development of my new Life Coaching Practice.

Tips for a Successful Relationship

During these times of high stress, our focus strays away from relationship and toward external validation. Here are some tips that will help you to have a more successful relationship.

1. Mutual commitment – it is important to pledge emotional involvement to each other

2. Support each other’s identity and individuality within the relationship

3. Authentic Communication – talk often and open, in both good and stressful times.

4. Share in mutual interests and fun – without jealousy or competitiveness  

5. Take ownership – do not judge, harbor resentments or be critical

6. Have sense of humor and reveal in the partnership

Interesting Concept on Body and Mind

"The body follows the mind...be it good...be it bad or be it disowned"

How your body reacts depends on how your mind is fed. If your mind is fed negative information or focuses on bad events or emotions then the body follows suit and it becomes sick. On the other hand if the mind is fed good material and focuses on growth and moving forward then the body reacts and performs at peak levels. How your life goes depends solely on what it is fed. Be aware of what you are allowing your mind to focus on. If you do not like it then make a shift in your thoughts. The more you work on shifting your thoughts the more successful you will be in life.

Understanding Relationships

I was a guess on a national radio show yesterday. In preparing for the show and with organizing my thoughts I came up with a quote to start the show. I would like to share to help anyone think deeply about their relationships with self and others. The quote is as follows: “How we conduct our relationships with others is a direct reflection of how we conduct our relationship with self”. What I was attempting to say is that if you cannot have successful relationship with yourself it is hard to deserve to have a successful and fulfilling relationship with others. The relationship may not totally mirror each other, but if you think that you are “not good enough” to have a relationship with yourself then how can you accept a relationship with others. Good relationship starts from within.

Monday After Experiencing Thanksgiving

Today of course for many is Post Thanksgiving Reality or Monday "let down day". As I said in my new video on my You Tube when experiencing an intense life event - "for every action there is an opposite and equal reaction". Being around family during the holidays brings up many things, like negative beliefs and mixed emotions. Many people will experience feeling of deep disappointment after the big day. 

                                                   Why?

Three reasons: One is old resentments not dealt with from last year. Two is the surfacing of old disempowering beliefs and three is expectations not met of how family members should or should not act.

What is a Good Coach?

A good coach offers extensive experience, knowledge and the advantage of a third eye. A good coach will assist you in identifying the weaknesses that is causing fear that decreases your performance. A good coach helps you to discover the root beliefs that are holding you back from what you want in life. Once the discovery phase is completed then a good coach should assist you in shifting disempowering beliefs, teach you new individualized skills and develop an effective Action Plan. So if you want to perform better in your life, seek out a Life Coach to untangle the barriers that are restricting you from success.

Transformation

“The seed of transformation is the beginning of inner revolution.”

This first blog is the beginning of the Life Skills website. This site is dedicated to the intention of presenting to others resources to enhance their life. In order to accomplish this one has to gain knowledge and understanding as well as acquire skills to better perform. It is my intention to offer resources to facilitate growth. So join me as this website matures and visit often. http://www.lifeskills-transformation.com/